Making Summer Work: A Separated Parent's Guide to the School Holidays

Summer brings longer days, lighter routines, and plenty of excitement for children. But for separated or divorced parents, the school holidays can also bring complex logistics and emotional decisions. Whether you're planning holidays, managing childcare, or coordinating when the children are with different parents, it takes a thoughtful approach to ensure everything runs smoothly.

At Francis George Solicitor-Advocate, we support families through every stage of separation and beyond. Here's our expert advice on how to handle the summer holidays with less stress and more success.

1. Start Early: The Power of Planning

Leaving things to the last minute can quickly lead to confusion or conflict. Begin holiday discussions well before the end of term so that you and your co-parent have time to organise work, childcare, and any trips away.

Written plans (via email or co-parenting apps) help keep arrangements clear and prevent misunderstandings. If things are amicable, a simple shared calendar can go a long way in keeping things organised.

2. Focus on What's Best for the Children

It's easy to get caught up in what's "fair" between parents, but try to keep your children's well-being at the heart of every decision. A consistent routine (even during holidays) and quality time with both parents help children feel safe and supported.

Think about what will make their summer memorable – and try to work around their needs and preferences where possible.

3. Know the Legal Boundaries – Especially for Travel

Going abroad? There are important legal considerations:

• With a Child Arrangements Order stating the child lives with you, you can take them abroad for up to 28 days without needing the other parent's permission – unless the court has placed a restriction.

• Without such an order, you must obtain written consent from everyone with parental responsibility before taking the child out of the country.

Not sure what applies to you? Get legal advice in advance – unauthorised travel can result in serious legal consequences.

4. Stay Flexible (and Be Kind Where You Can)

Life happens. Flights get cancelled, plans change, and kids get sick. While it's essential to have a plan, it's equally important to leave some room for flexibility. A spirit of cooperation can make all the difference, especially when unexpected situations arise.

Remember, practising kindness and compromise now can often lead to smoother co-parenting in the long run.

5. Put It in Writing

Whether it's a one-off holiday or a new summer routine, it helps to have your agreements written down. This could be as informal as a shared email chain or something more official. Written agreements provide clarity and serve as a helpful reference if plans go off track.

In more complex situations, a solicitor can help formalise arrangements through a Parenting Plan or court order.

6. When to Seek Legal Support

If things start to feel strained or conversations break down, it's time to get professional help. The family law team at Francis George Solicitor-Advocate can support you in resolving disputes constructively, with your child's best interests at heart.

We can also advise on Child Arrangements Orders, help with holiday permissions, and formalise agreements when needed. As a trusted, accredited firm with offices in Swindon and Witney, we're here when you need clarity and calm.

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Summer should be a time of joy for your children – and peace of mind for you. With the proper planning and legal guidance, separated parents can give their children and themselves the summer they deserve.

If you need advice or legal support with child arrangements, travel consent, or co-parenting issues, our expert team is here to help – just contact us to start your summer right.